kindness
matters

Being kind to yourself changes your brain and increases emotional resilience.
Being kind to others changes the world.

DR Anna Friis 

Anna is a registered health psychologist based in Auckland, New Zealand, welcoming private clients to her Ponsonby clinic and also offering online consultations. She is a Certified teacher of Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC) with a deep personal commitment to these practices as pathways to increased well-being and flourishing. Learning to be mindful and to treat oneself with kindness when meeting life's inevitable challenges is a powerful antidote to depression, anxiety and burn-out, enabling one to live with ease, connection and contentment.    
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"Working with you has changed the most important relationship in my life .. the relationship with myself. For that, I am truly grateful." Vanessa

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Evidence shows mindfulness and compassion practices are balms for many modern day ailments and can increase resilience and wellbeing.  Anna is a regular speaker to both corporate and community audiences, sharing personal, professional and academic expertise.

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Psychologist

 Life can be difficult. Learning new tools to cope with emotional and physical distress can help. If you feel that compassion-based therapy may be right for you,  contact Dr Anna Friis for an appointment (in person and on-line services available)

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TEACHER

 Anna offers training in mindfulness and self-compassion to corporate and private groups. In addition, she  teaches an eight-week course in Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC) in Auckland,  as well as MSC in a five-day intensive format at various locations in New Zealand and Australia. (Click courses tab for current training options and enrolments)

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Short on-line training in Mindful self-compassion (SC-MSC)
Oct 6 - November 10

The NZ Psychological Society is offering a Short Course in Mindful Self-Compassion (SC-MSC) taught by Dr Anna Friis. The SC-MSC is a 6-week adaptation of the empirically-supported 8-week Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC) program designed to begin the cultivation of the skills of self-compassion. It was developed to allow participants to begin to learn a targeted set of MSC practices with less initial time commitment than the full 26-hour MSC program.
Participants will learn to:
Articulate the basic theoretical underpinnings and research findings related to self-compassion
Develop and apply self-compassion practices to motivate themselves with encouragement rather than self-criticism
Develop the capacity to contend with challenges and difficulties through awareness of self-kindness, common humanity and mindfulness.
Apply core self-compassion practices into daily life
This program is designed for the general public. Meditation experience is not necessary. Members of NZPsychSoc and non-members welcome..
https://www.psychology.org.nz/application/files/6815/9917/9455/2020_MSC_training_course.pdf

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Thursday, March 26, 2020

Self-Compassion: Mission Critical for Kiwi Lock Down

Self-compassion will be mission critical for the weeks ahead – because if we don’t take care of ourselves, we won’t last the distance, and it’s going to be a marathon not a sprint. That means treating ourselves like we would treat someone we love, particularly when we find ourselves struggling or feeling overwhelmed. The phrase “we are in this together” means we ALL matter. One way to practise is to take a ‘self-compassion break.’ Here’s my variation for the current Kiwi Lock Down. Do this whenever you feel like you are struggling. Hopefully in taking care of yourself in this way, you will have more love and patience in the metaphorical tank to give to others.

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Monday, January 13, 2020

Unbusy Yourself: There's no Time to Waste

This summer, for the first time in what feels like way too long, I have spent day after day just with myself and my beloved. Real conversations have unfolded. We have had time and space, and felt expansive and safe enough to say things that needed saying, and loving enough to hear them with an open heart. We have learned wonderful new things about each other after all these years together. We’ve had real fun. We noticed how when days slow right down, they become curiously full. Turns out there is a lot going on when we unbusy ourselves.

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LEarn HOW TO

  • Practise mindfulness and self-compassion in your daily life

  • Learn how to handle difficult situations and emotions with greater ease

  • Learn how to motivate yourself with kindness rather than criticism

  • Learn tools to transform challenging relationships 

  • Increase resilience and learn tools to prevent burn-out

  • Practise the art of savouring and self-appreciation

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what is Self-Compassion? 

Ultimately, self-compassion is a courageous attitude that stands up to harm, including the harm that we inflict on ourselves through self-criticism, self-denial, or self-absorption. Anna is an experienced teacher of self-compassion, drawing on many years of personal and professional practise.

Dr. anna friis Ph.D

Health Psychologist
B.A. PGDipSci, M.Sc (Hons),
PGDip Health Psychology, PH.D